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What Might I Like About Swinging?

People may be attracted to the swinging community for a variety of
different reasons. Many couples find the thought of having sex with other
people to be very arousing, and may find that swinging becomes a catalyst
for improving their own sex lives and relationship. Some people may feel
stifled by repressive societal attitudes towards sexuality, and may
welcome the opportunity to form friendships and a new social network with
people of like mind. Others may simply feel that sex should be a natural
possibility in any friendship in which there is mutual attraction, and so
appreciate the relative open-mindedness and pleasure-positivity with which
the swinging community views this subject. Although the swinging
community is unfortunately not always the best place right now for
het-identified men to explore their potential bisexuality, it is currently
a relatively good place for het-identified women to initially explore sex
with other women, and this sometimes plays a role in couples choosing to
seek it out.

In the past, the swinging community has been somewhat unaware of or
confused by alternative sexual practices such as BDSM or Tantra. This
appears to be changing, and these days you may find many folks in the
swinging community who are knowledgeable about such things (though
forms of BDSM much more extreme than spanking or very light bondage
may make people uncomfortable, depending on the club). If you’re
interested in doing so and spend enough time meeting different people,
you may actually find that today’s swinging community is becoming a
somewhat fertile place to meet folks with a variety of sexual
interests. It is certainly true right now that the national swinging
conventions tend to host seminars and workshops on a variety of sexual
topics, which seems at least somewhat indicative of broadening
perspectives in the community.

Some women may find the swinging community to be a welcome dose of
sanity. Our culture can be quite cruel to women who have an active
interest in sex, often derisively labeling them "sluts" – a
term which stands in sharp contrast to the less derogatory term for
men, "studs". The swinging community may be especially
attractive to these women, who may feel their sex drives and/or sexual
assertiveness should be appreciated rather than snickered about or

Some people end up learning quite a bit about themselves and their
sexualities through swinging. For example, most folks find that
having their partner actively enjoy and appreciate what they are
experiencing during sex to be a tremendous turn-on; this is a
realization which may stand in sharp contrast to the attitude that
"performance" is all-important. Swinging can be an
opportunity to learn to relax and appreciate sexual pleasure, and may
help one view sex more as a source of pleasure and intimacy and less
as a social bargaining chip or ego fuel.

Although this may vary slightly from club to club, in general the
swinging community is quite accepting of a variety of body types,
sizes, ages, and shapes. Additionally, many on-premises events
provide an opportunity to dress sexily or go completely nude, which
can be a fun and sensual experience in and of itself.

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